When it comes to LOVE, do you know what really matters — at least for you?
I work with clients for many things, but the top two are LOVE and MONEY.
Today we’re exploring LOVE and your values. Do you know what your real love values are? Many people say they do, but when further questioned, we determine they know what they don’t want, not necessarily what they do want. And that’s OK. It can be a starting point.
If you’re one of those people who seem to be making the same choices in love relationships over and over and over again, or you can’t seem to find the “right” one, or you realize you are in yet another less-than-rewarding relationship … this should help you identify why and help you start to make the changes you need to make to make the change.
So grab a piece of paper, a pen, a highlighter and a glass of water (I’ll wait).
Now get comfortable and take a few minutes to think about all of the challenges you’ve experienced in your romantic relationships.
Write down 10 things you have learned you will not tolerate in a relationship.
I’ll even give you some of mine from my experience with this exercise 20+ years ago: Infidelity, Dishonesty, No Faith Base, Bullying, Low Self Esteem, No Motivation, Substance Abuse. (Any of you ladies recognize this guy? Yeah, I thought so.) Understand you may come up with multiple aspects of the same thing or they may be totally different things. Just write them down.
Now highlight all of the things you are currently tolerating or have tolerated in your most recent relationships.
So, let’s look at the results. How many items are highlighted? Many of my clients realize they have highlighted 6-10 items! That’s right. They are compromising 60 to 100 percent of their top 10 values. Is it any wonder they’re not happy?! You just can’t compromise your values and expect to be happy or feel fulfilled.
There is much more to this process. If you are interested in learning more about it and healing your love relationships, JOIN ME at my next Lessons in Sex, Love and Intimacy program, or call to discuss scheduling a Breakthrough or VIP day with me at 888-916-4569.