Do you need to change your mind about money and your finances?
You absolutely do if you’ve ever spent even two minutes being influenced by your family, friends, colleagues or the media. So, essentially – YES.
- Are you tired of being broke?
- Heard money doesn’t grow on trees.
- Think, “When will I ever get ahead…”
- Listen to the internal voices that tell you, “YOU don’t deserve nice things…”
- Suffer through setback after setback.
I want you to know – you didn’t come into this life with these inherent thoughts, beliefs, decisions and behaviors (TBDB’s) pre-populated in your consciousness about money. And yet there they are in all their glory. Along with a myriad of others that limit your life and your lifestyle. You’ve fallen under the influence of other peoples’ TBDB’s surrounding money, wealth and abundance.
Consciousness is a funny thing
The more conscious you become the more consciousness you will seek. You’ll begin to actively search for change in growth, evolution and self-actualization. The status quo will no longer suffice for you. You’ll be asked to show up in ways that require work and effort. Ways that challenge you to be bigger, act bolder and thrive outside of your comfort zone. And you’ll love nearly every minute of it!
When you don’t know what you don’t know
When you don’t know what you don’t know, life is good. And many people go through life with this mindset. They don’t want to know. They don’t want to grow. They’re perfectly happy living their, “Let me get from today to tomorrow with the least amount of effort, path of least resistance life.” I’ll never make an impact in this group. They’re not interested in change, growth or self-actualization. They just want to “get by”. They live in their comfort zone.
We call this unconscious incompetence
You don’t understand or know how to do something and don’t necessarily recognize the deficit. You may deny the usefulness of the skill, tool or strategy. Because you must recognize your own incompetence, and the value of the new skill, before moving on to the next stage. The length of time you spend in this stage depends on the strength of the stimulus to learn. Meaning, is the discomfort of being where you are greater than the discomfort of making change.
When you know what you don’t know
As you grow and evolve (in anything really) you begin to become consciously aware. Meaning, you now know what you don’t know and life takes an uncomfortable turn. And it’s in this discomfort that it gets interesting (especially for people like me who study behavior). It’s that area of discomfort that really defines an individual. It’s how you respond to this discomfort that shows the world exactly what you’re made of.
And some will choose to stay there, in that discomfort and bitch and complain to their heart’s content. They have no real desire to change. They’re comfortable being uncomfortable. Believe it or not, they’re getting something out of it, despite their bitching. If you really want change, you make change happen. You either make it happen or you make excuses.
This is conscious incompetence
Though you don’t understand or know how to do something, you recognize the deficit, as well as the value of a new skill in addressing the deficit. The making of mistakes can be integral to the learning process at this stage.
When you know what you know
Other people will choose to change. They’ll move into the area where they are conscious of what they know. They’ll add to their learning, healings, teachings and knowings in order to grow. In order to evolve. They understand that success leaves clues and they work hard to find those clues. They’ll work to apply them to their circumstances. They know they’ll be uncomfortable while applying their newly acquired skills, strategies, thoughts, beliefs, decisions and behaviors. This stage is where you know what you know and you have to apply conscious effort to it happen, to make change. Because. It. Takes. Work. And sometimes that work is hard, painful or repetitive. But these fabulous folks believe they’re worth the effort. They believe they deserve more and they’re willing to make change happen. And they don’t see making excuses as an option. They show up for themselves fully and without reservation.
You understand or know how to do something. However, demonstrating the skill or knowledge requires concentration. It may be broken down into steps and there is heavy conscious involvement in executing the new skill.
This is where the magic happens
Once you know what you know and you’ve applied the effort enough times, it becomes a part of your patterned behaviors. A naturally applied strategy. An automatic action.
You’ve had so much practice with a skill that it’s become “second nature” and can be performed easily almost without consciousness (I get the irony here). As a result, the skill can be performed while executing another task. You may be able to teach it to others, depending upon how and when it was learned.
When your consciousness about money is the problem
It’s important to take the time to explore your financial history, focusing on personal behavioral analysis, social exposure, and family experiences. You need to understand exactly what your conscious mind, subconscious mind, cultural and family history have done to sabotage your healthy money mindset. And then you need to fix it! You need to take your limiting thoughts, beliefs, decisions and behaviors (TBDB’s) and release them. Especially if…
- You can’t seem to get ahead financially or break certain financial thresholds.
- You are unconsciously self-sabotaging.
- Your unhealthy money strategies from your childhood are setting you up for failure.
- You have unhealthy boundaries that set you up for overcompensating, avoidance or miserly behaviors.
- You know you need tools to change your money mindset and behavioral programming.
Don’t know what to do next?
Change is hard. If it were easy, you’d have done it by now. You haven’t changed. I’ll guarantee it’s not for lack of desire, poor choices or inherent character flaws on your part. You haven’t changed because you haven’t found the the support you need. You may not have the tools, the training or the supportive community you need to make the changes you want. No worries! I promise you won’t have to spend years and thousands of dollars investing in the training and tools to change. You won’t have to upgrade your family and friends and most importantly, you won’t have to go it alone – let’s change your money mindset together. You have the desire – I have the tools and training. Let’s make this happen!
Join me for our next Women, Wealth and Worthiness launch – I’d love to see you there!
Is Women, Wealth and Worthiness right for you?
- Perfect for you if you have challenges with or around money.
- Business owners and entrepreneurs – we’ve developed a specific series for you.
- If you’re in sales, you know your mindset is EVERYTHING.
- Great for getting over the shock of tax season 🙂
- Or you’ve changed life circumstances (retired, divorced, married, new family, empty nesting, kid off to college, etc.)