Life balance, unlike the Yeti, exists
You’ve perhaps heard tell of this elusive little thing called life balance.
Balance is not something that’s been a destination for me; it’s more of a journey. But there are some things that I do consistently and they really help me find that place that I call balance in my life.
In reading the following tips, you may think – gasp – I couldn’t possibly do those things. I’d be selfish to even think I could.
Truthfully, I’ve never felt selfish for taking these steps. And in that rear-view mirror vision we call hindsight, I know in my heart of hearts that doing these things allows me to step out for others in ways I couldn’t possibly have if I hadn’t done them. It’s in doing these things that I have the energy, drive, and desire to be there for other people.
1. Remember how important you are. You are the most important person in your life. It’s important to understand this. You don’t need to sacrifice your comfort, safety, values, or any other damn thing to “make someone else happy.” They’re responsible for their own outcomes.
2. Learn to say no. No is a whole and complete sentence. You do not need to justify, explain, validate, or negotiate this position. Look at it this way: you’re not saying no to other people, you’re learning to say yes to yourself.
3. Communicate your needs appropriately. Do not expect others to guess what you want. They can’t read your mind. Do not beat around the bush; in fact, assuming or just hoping they will come to understand what it is you need, will only leave you and them frustrated and unsatisfied. Ask for what you need. Just remember they should be the most important person in their life and no is a whole and complete sentence for them too.