Yarn of wool in heart shape symbolValentine’s Day is tomorrow. A friend of mine (male) once called it “Chick Christmas.” I had to laugh! This was so true on on many levels.

We (females) do tend to make out if we are in a relationship with a caring partner on this day. Flowers, dinner, candy, jewelry and oh-so-romantic cards from the greeting card companies who extoll the virtues of being partnered.

But *gasp* what if you find yourself free from romantic entanglement on the high holy day of February 14th??? What then?

Well, let’s start with BREATHE.

Love is not just about romantic entanglement. It comes in many forms. So take inventory. Do you have family, friends, co-workers, pets or neighbors to whom you can express your love? You can bake something for a lonely widow on your block, send your sister or mother a card, take flowers to a retirement home, or get into the office early with donuts, start the coffee and leave a note for your coworkers, wishing them a wonderful day.

Finally, why wait until February 14th to tell the people around you that you love them? Put your feelings into action daily.

I spent many high holy days single. I sent cards to my best girlfriends and family, met friends for lunch, and thought about how much love I had to give. I knew that being alone was the process I needed to go through to find out who I was in order to be the best partner I could be.

And it paid off. I learned not to settle.

Are you single or settling and ready to make that change?

2 Comments

  1. (Rev) Judith A LaBonte on February 13, 2014 at 11:58 am

    Thank you – i have had a difficult time with Valentines day over the last 6 years – for me, THIS year it will be 6 years and 3 mos. to the day since my Soul-Mate/Husband died. Every year it’s been so many years and 3 mos. on Valentine’s day, for the last 6. And he used to make such a big deal of it. That and multiple major health challenges and disabilities of my own have made it a very harsh experience for me, for the last 6 years. Again, Thank you for posting this.
    (Rev) j/L – “Granny” Matrika / Rolling Buffalo Woman



  2. Heather Hilger on February 13, 2014 at 3:50 pm

    I’ve alw√†ys thought of st. Valentines as both sexes and have never expected or asked oranything